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Love Or Respect: Which Do You Prefer?
How Husbands Should Treat Their Wives
Men and women are different. Despite being equal in every mental
aspect and almost every physical aspect, we are still different.
Therefore, it should be no surprise that there is a difference in how
husbands treat their wives and wives treat their husbands.
The most important emotion a husband can show his wife is love.
That is what women are looking for from their men. Love.
Respect, friendship, and support are all important. But love is the
foundation of all of these things.
I can give you all sorts of anecdotal evidence. Stories about
women enduring all sorts of mental abuse and neglect because
want their men to love them. And I can also cite cases where a
woman would leave an otherwise good man if she feels he doesn’t
love her.
But rather than do that, I’ll just quote from the Quran and hadith.
And live with them in kindness. For if you dislike them – perhaps
you dislike a thing and Allah makes therein much good.Surah Nisa
Verse 19
And from the hadith:
He has further stressed: “The most perfect believer in the matter of
faith is one who has excellent behavior; and the best among you
are those who behave best towards their wives.” Collected by At-
Tirmidhi.
Allah and His Messenger (peace be upon him) are showing us the
way men should behave with their wives.
Treat them with kindness.
Do not dislike or hate them.
Treat them with the best behavior.
It is very difficult to have a relationship like this with a woman and
not love her.
And the interesting thing is, the more you love your wife, the more
she respects you. Which brings me to my next point.
How Wives Should Treat Their Husbands
Men don’t need love as much as women do. But what men do
need is respect. Men will fight each other over perceived
disrespect. So it is important that a woman always show respect
towards her husband.
Respect means to hold someone in esteem or honor. What men
most want from their wives is to be honored and respected. The
easiest way to turn your husband against you is to attack his
ego.And on the other side, the more respect you show your
husband, the more he will love you.
The command to respect your husband comes from Allah in the
Quran when He says:
So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the
husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard.
Surah Nisaa Verse 34.
And from the hadith:
When any woman prays her five, fasts her month, guards her body
and obeys her husband, it is said to her: ‘Enter paradise from
whichever of its doors you wish.’” Collected by At-Tirmidhi.
So you see that the primary commandment for a woman towards
her husband is to respect him through obedience and modesty.
And it so happens that when a woman increases her respect for
her husband, he likewise increases in love for her.And when a man
increases his love for his wife, she likewise increases in respect for
him.
It Takes Two To Make A Marriage Work
Chances are if you ask a man why he doesn’t show more love to
his wife, he would say: “I will love her more when she respects me
more.”
And if you ask a woman why she doesn’t respect her husband she
may say: “I will respect him more when he loves me more.”
The fact is it takes two people to make a marriage work. The
husband has to show his love to his wife in order to gain her
respect. And the wife has to show her respect to her husband to
gain his love.
Men are turned on by women who respect them
and women are turned on by men who love them.
My advice to you, if you are already married, is to begin showing
your spouse more love and respect.
Brothers, whatever stage of marriage you’re in, show your wife that
you love her.
Buy her little gifts for no reason at all.
Just tell her you love her and why you love her and tell it from your
heart.
If you do this, you will see your relationship with your wife grow to
unprecedented levels. Your wife will begin to treat you like the
great man she always wanted to marry.
Sisters, the same for you. Whatever stage of marriage you’re in,
show your husband..